Here’s a pic of me in the Bahamas. On the left is Penthouse Pet McKenzee Miles and on the right Phoenix Marie.McKenzee is a little shy for an adult entertainer but Phoenix is not. She was very friendly and personable and I had a lot of fun getting to know her. Both of them a lovely women.

You might be wondering – what is a guy like me doing in the Bahamas with these two women? Well, Adult Friendfinder put on a party at the Atlantis hotel for the top 100 affiliates and it turns out that I’m in the top 100. I’ve been referring people to AFF for the last 12 years from mostly 3 of my web pages. The Men’s Guide to Escort Services, The Nerd’s Guide to Sex, and The Shy Girl’s Guide to becoming a Whore.

What makes this all even more interesting is that all three pages were written indirectly as a result of my divorce from my ex-gold digger wife, Vicki Stringfellow, who cleaned me out. After my divorce I started seeing escorts, a lot of escorts, and these women started saying a lot of good things about me. So being a geek I investigated it further and figured out that there’s nothing that special about me, it’s that the average guy is clueless. So I wrote these guides and over time I started making some good money off of it.

I’ve written a lot of web pages but when it come to making something off of ads no one pays as well as AFF. And I’ve met a LOT of women there as well as Craigslist in the Casual Encounters. Since my divorce I’ve been with about 100 wonderful women and have fond memories of all of the. Or at least the one’s I can remember.

At this point I’ve done well enough that Adult Friendfinder income has paid for my divorce, paid for all the hookers I’ve been with, paid for the house and farm I lost, and I actually at this point have made a profit from the divorce. That’s what I finally figured out during the week I was in the Bahamas. And that’s not counting all the fun I’ve had in the process of recovering.

People have been emailing me about how I’m doing after spending a decade in court suing my ex – her lawyers – and judges. I eventually got tired of living in Springfield Missouri, moved to California, and started over. It’s now been 10 years since I moved out here and live has been good to me.

They say that the best revenge is to live well and that’s what I’ve done. When marriage sets you back you just pick yourself up and continue. I’m now living in California, own a new home, and not stuck in Springfield Missouri anymore.

I have some questions for those who support same sex marriage – should I be allowed to marry my brother? If not – why not?

I would point out that the reason for not marrying my sister is that if we reproduced – then we would likely have birth complications. However – that doesn’t apply if I marry my brother because I can’t get him pregnant. For that matter – should I be allowed to marry my sister of one or both of us are not capable of reproducing? – If not – why not?

Should I be allowed to marry more than one person? Why limit marriage to only 2 people? Why not 3 or 4? Why have a limit?

Should I be allowed to marry my cat – especially when a cat is much more likely to make a lifelong commitment that a human. In fact – I would bet that if someone compared the average number of years an owner and their pet stay together and a man and wife stay together – the pets would win.

For those who want to move the line on what people should and shouldn’t marry – where do you want to move the line to? And – why should the line be there?

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If it were up to me – I would move the line back the other way to include only couples with children. To me marriage is about families – reproducing – creating new generations. I would therefore – if I were King – grant civil unions to same sex couples and non-reproducing heterosexual couples.

All marriages are really civil unions in the eyes of the state because all states have no fault divorce laws. Therefore the state doesn’t really recognize the “relationship” part of a marriage and marriage is really just a bad property agreement where if the relationship fails then two lawyers get to keep your property. From someone who has been chewed by the courts I say to same sex couples – be careful what you ask for – you might get it!

Having said that – I have to say that I like the defiance that San Francisco is doing. San Francisco is a gay driven town and in this culture this is important to them. I can’t help but to want to cheer them on. So – for those who disagree with me on my position – have fun at the weddings. And I hope you don’t end up in same sex divorce. Bet careful what you ask for – you might get it.

There are several reasons for this and I’m not going to go into them all here. I do believe in civil unions for gay couples who want to bring the state and lawyers into their relationship (be careful what you ask for as they say – you might get it) – but marriage? No.

What’s happening in the debate is the battle of the fuzzy lines. And it takes little effort to make the lines fuzzy. For example – a heterosexual couple gets married and one gets a sex change – are they still legally married? Yes. Or – why should non-reproducing heterosexuals be allowed to marry but gays aren’t? Why shouldn’t I be allowed to marry my sister if I’ve had a vasectomy? Or marry my father? Or marry my sister and my father? Where do you draw the line?

I draw the line where the line has always be drawn. A marriage is between heterosexuals. Even though I am a non-reproducing male, there really is a biological reason that people get married and everyone on the planet (well – science has blurred that line too) is a result of heterosexual relationships. So the concept of marriage is rooted in reproduction and raising children. Quite frankly – if I were to move the line on marriage – it would be the other way – to restrict it to families with children.

There is more of an agenda here in the gay marriage issue than just gay marriages. There is the question of – is a gay relationship “normal”. And the answer to that is clearly no – it is not normal. It is in fact abnormal. And that’s what a lot of this debate is all about – the issue of what is normal and what is not.

Having said that it’s abnormal – how abnormal is it? Well – it’s not really very abnormal. For those who were “born gay” which I do believe that most gays are born that way – it’s a physical birth defect. It’s equivalent to a hormone imbalance. It’s less serious that something like juvenile diabetes. It is far less socially deviant that someone who is a cigarette smoker for example. So – on the scale of what is normal – it’s somewhat abnormal but not as abnormal as smokers.

Back to the politics and the fuzzy lines. The real issues behind the issues of gay marriage and gays in the military (something you don’t hear about since Bush became president) is how do we treat these people and how do we all get along together in society? Gay people have relationship – fall in love – and want to be together and feel normal – or relatively normal – without being harassed for who they are. The problem is that everyone – including gay – wants to treat it as a right or wrong issue. For both sides it all or none and both sides are dead wrong on that point.

Sexuality is a fuzzy line problem. Both sides of the debate are going to have to lighten up. Yes – it is abnormal. If you are gay and you are arguing that there is no difference between a gay relationship and a straight relationship – you are wrong. However – if you are anti-gay and you think that anyone who engages in sodomy should be put in prison – you’re dead wrong too. I can’t seem to make a good argument that anal sex between a man and a woman is morally different than anal sex between two men. The bottom line is – being gay is a defect – but it’s not a serious defect. It abnormal – but not so abnormal to make a big deal over.

One of the big problems in this debate is the politics of it. The issue of gay marriage for gays caries symbolism. They were persecuted as children and have felt that they are inferior. Now they are coming back and declaring that they are not inferior that they are the same as everyone else and that the marriage issue has become a metaphor for getting society to declare them normal. That somehow if they are allowed to get married that all their self doubts and self image problems will go away.

On the other hand – heterosexuals are concerned that once gay marriage is allowed then children are going to be raised thinking that there’s no difference between heterosexual and homosexual relationships and that straight kids will be taught to be gay. And they have somewhat of a point here. What we teach children is an issue and what the extremists on both sides are promoting is dead wrong. But that’s a different rant.

So – I do have to agree however that gay marriage dilutes the meaning of marriage and denies the reality that there really is a distinction. For the purposes of equality however – and in recognition that although it’s abnormal it’s not that abnormal – that civil unions be allowed so that gay couples can adopt children – make medical decisions for their spouse – and have survivors rights and such.

Having said that – there really is no such thing as marriage anymore really. The institution of marriage is a fraud. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment to a relationship and if you get divorced – you’re breaking that commitment. You can’t go to the government and have the court enforce the lifelong commitment part of the marriage contract – but they will enforce the mutual property part – taking away everything you both own and giving it to a pair of greedy lawyers.

Marriage is really just a really bad property contract. If you’ve ever been through the divorce process you would never want to be married. And the bottom line is – gays are lucky they are protected from government abuse. If you have never experienced it – divorce lawyers and judges are corrupt beyond belief. If I told you how bad it really is – you would not believe me. If you look at it objectively it as bad as being in the military under Bush. Is this something you really want if you really knew what it was your asking for? It’s not.

You don’t need the approval of the government to have a relationship. If you want to have a relationship that the government or the church doesn’t approve of then just do it and tell everyone who doesn’t like it to get fucked.

My advice to gays is – don’t depend on others for your sense of self approval because it just doesn’t work. Just decide – so – I’m a little abnormal – so what. Why make it a big deal? Don’t complain and don’t explain.

In fact – if you really want to know why it is that straight guys don’t like gay guys – it’s not the sexual behavior – it’s the god damn whining. Yes – gays are oppressed but not nearly as much as blacks and women are and the more you whine about it – the more irritated people become with you. I can accept bizzare sexual conduct because I really don’t give a damn about what other people do sexually. It really doesn’t bother me. But it’s the whining about it. I can’t deal with that. I don’t want to be part of your self acceptance problems.

Conversely – those who judge gays as immoral based on their religious beliefs have a far more serious problem to deal with because extreme religion is a serious form of mental illness and is a far more serious problem than being gay.

Summary of Points:

1) Marriage is based on our heritage of reproduction and family gay marriage makes the definition of marriage meaningless.

2) Being Gay is abnormal – but not as abnormal as smoking or extreme religion.

3) Gays should not use this issue as a metaphor for their own self acceptance issues.

4) The institution of marriage is a fraud and not sane person who truly understood how corrupt the courts are would ever get married in the first place.